10 Ways Dads Can Bond with Their Newborn

– Written by Sander (dad of 2 since 2021)

Becoming a dad to a newborn is an incredible experience filled with love, wonder, and a whole lot of learning. Those first 12 weeks are crucial for bonding and establishing a strong connection with your baby. As a new dad, here are ten meaningful ways you can make the most of this special time:

1. Skin-to-Skin Contact
   This initial connection with your newborn at the hospital can be a breathtaking experience that's difficult to put into words. Holding your baby against your bare chest creates an indescribable bond that goes beyond words—it's a profound moment filled with awe, love, and a flood of emotions. It's a memory that will stay with you forever, marking the beginning of an incredible journey into parenthood. Cherish these special moments—they are truly unforgettable and deeply meaningful.

2. Diaper Duty
   Embrace diaper changes as an opportunity to bond. Offer to take on this task regularly—it's a hands-on way to care for your little one.

3. Feeding Support
   If your partner is breastfeeding, support her during feedings. Bring the baby to her, burp them afterward, or handle other tasks to make feeding time smoother. If your baby is being fed both breastmilk and formula, find a balance with your partner. Consider taking on some of the bottle feedings while your partner focuses on breastfeeding. This division of feeding responsibilities can help both of you feel involved and supported in nurturing your baby. It also allows your partner to rest and maintain her milk supply, while giving you precious bonding time during feedings. Communication and teamwork in feeding can strengthen your partnership and parenting experience.

4. Bonding Time
   Spend quality one-on-one time with your baby. Hold, talk, sing, or read to them—they love hearing your voice and feeling your touch.

5. Baby carrier
   Invest in a good baby carrier or wrap and take your baby for walks or wear them around the house. This closeness is soothing for your baby and allows you to be hands-free.

6. Nighttime Shifts
   While the world sleeps, enjoy these quiet moments together—it's a chance to strengthen your connection and create special memories during these early weeks. By sharing these nighttime routines, you're not just helping out; you're building a strong foundation of trust and love with your little one.

7. Learn Baby's Cues
   Spend time observing your baby's cues for hunger, tiredness, or discomfort. This helps you respond more effectively to their needs. We also used Huckleberry which was very helpful, to see when she had her last nap, feed or nappy change.

8. Be Involved in Care Routines
   Participate in bath time—it's a fun bonding activity. Learn how to bathe your baby safely.

9. Offer/ask Support
   In those early days, you might find yourself taking on all the responsibilities while your partner is healing and resting in bed. This can feel overwhelming at times, and it's important to prioritise the essentials. Focus on the most important tasks like caring for your baby and partner, preparing meals, and maintaining a clean environment. Remember, the rest can wait. Don't hesitate to reach out to friends and family for assistance if you need help with errands or chores. It's okay to ask for support—it's a sign of strength, not weakness. And if it all starts feeling like too much, remember to prioritise self-care (tip #10).

10. Self-Care
    Remember to take care of yourself, too. Being a new parent can be physically and emotionally demanding. Try to rest, eat well, and find time to recharge. Take short walks alone to get some fresh air and clear your mind—it can do wonders for your mood. Don't hesitate to sneak in short daytime naps when possible to combat sleep deprivation. Seek support from family, friends, or parenting groups if you're feeling overwhelmed. Taking care of yourself enables you to be fully present and engaged with your baby. Remember, you're an important part of your child's life, and your well-being matters, too.

Me holding Colette for the first time.

These early weeks are a unique opportunity to establish a strong foundation of love and trust with your newborn. Embrace these moments, cherish the journey, and enjoy watching your baby grow!